The Talk of the Town – Estate Buzz

Whether I’m at a networking event, meeting with clients, or forming a wonderful new business partnership, I’ve heard a theme recently. Estate planning is the buzzword. A few people I can understand, but so many in such a short period just has to be more than a coincidence.

I’m sure my attorney friends are tired of me bugging them asking them pesky little questions. Which to side track a bit, it is always an “it depends” kind of answer. Nothing is as straightforward as it should be when it comes to the law books.

Estate planning will mean different things to different people. It can mean a “simple” will that you print off the internet and fill in the blanks or it can be a complicated Trust situation. Every family is different. When it comes to estate planning, there is no simple answer and it, like the law, will have an “it depends” kind of answer.

Here is a short list of things to consider when planning how you want to leave your legacy behind.

1) Make sure you have an accurate, up to date inventory so there’s no grey zones. Check out Nino’s www.thestuffinmyhome.com to catalog your belongings. This list not only should include physical items, but money, investments, and insurance to name a few.

2) Hire an experienced estate planning lawyer. The reason I say this is because I can speak from personal experience here. My grandfather hired a lawyer to draft his will. He was a friend of the family that dealt more with oil & mining law than estates. He made a very large mistake and almost costs the family lots of money. It eventually worked out, but it could have ended very badly. If you need a list of suggestions, please let me know and I’ll send you some good names.

3) Be open and honest with your lawyer on who you do and don’t want in your will. This will more than likely include telling the lawyer your family drama and dirty secrets. This isn’t gossip, it will help the attorney figure out the best route to take your plan from a tactical point. They’re bound my attorney/client privilege and want to do what’s in YOUR best interest. Everyone has some kind of family drama and/or secrets, so it probably won’t shock the seasoned estate attorney.

4) Make sure your financial planner is in the loop with your estate attorney. They should go to the meetings and make sure everyone is on the same page. They can also help the attorney with the financial side so you don’t forget anything. Having them work together will not only save a lot of time, it can save a lot of money when you’re considering tax implications of your estate plan. If you don’t have a financial planner, or you don’t have one that will go with you to the estate attorney, give me a call and we can fix that.

5) Be involve and follow up. Make sure to ask lots of questions until you understand. Having a good financial planner with you can really help with the jargon gap between attorney & client sometimes. If there is something the attorney or the planner need you to do, make sure you do it! Once you have a plan in place, make sure you check on it every so often as laws will change and may effect your plan.

These are just some things to consider when developing your own plan of action around your legacy.

Estate planning can be very involved, so make sure you have the right team members to win.

Until next time wonderful readers!

-Financial Landscaper

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Talking Over Turkey

For those that are not involved in the retail world, there will be a short week to enjoy and lots of family & friends. There be catching up on how the year has treated everyone and how work life has been.

Looking back I think this is the best (and typically only) time to talk about sensitive family matters. All the family is in one place to give opinions and throw in their votes. The past few years it has revolved around my grandparents and their care. Within the past three year, my family has gone from letting them stay in their condo, to an assisted living home (I call it a Dorm for seniors as it reminds me of a college dorm) to a nursing home for my grandmother. A lot changes every year, but one thing always stays the same: family time during the holidays to hash it out.

Here’s how it would typically go:

Aunt 1: I think Mema & Papa need to go someone where they can be looked after.

Mom: I don’t think they need that yet, they seem fine and I can’t imagine Papa giving up his independence.

Aunt 2: Well I don’t know, I’ve noticed x,y,z…

Mom: Why don’t we just ask them?

Everyone is coming from a good honest place and wants to do what’s best for Mema & Papa, but no one really has the answers, including Mema & Papa. No one ever really thought about it before. When is the “right time?” What does that look like for them? How would they want it handled? How can they be helped without losing their independence?

Knowing what I know now about long term care, I really wish SOMEONE in our family would have sought some kind of professional advice. I understand why no one did though and it’s the same reason many still don’t today – Who do you go to for this type of thing? Nursing homes and talk to their agents? How would they have an unbiased opinion? I can tell you right now one person you would NEVER think to ask: your Financial Advisor.

How the HECK can a Financial Advisor help with my parents’ long term care?

A financial advisor (that is properly licensed) is a large piece of the puzzle. The biggest thing MY family fights about at times is money and how to afford taking care of them when they took care of us. Even if it’s not money it can be time which also translates into money. As financial advisors, we can ask the right questions BEFORE it becomes the next family drama scene over turkey dinner. We can ask how they would want it to look so they can keep their independence AND have something to leave for the kids and grand kids. We can get them in touch with the right estate attorney that can draft not only a will, but documents helping guide the kids on what they want as the years go by and they may not be able to take care of themselves.

Here’s my suggestion this Thanksgiving when family & friends start talking about grandma & grandpa and what to do as they get older: tell them to give a Financial Planner a call to see if he/she can help. Arguing between siblings can create unnecessary drama, so nipping that in the bud early will make for a more peaceful family gathering. A Financial Planner can help ask key questions that engage them on what they want it to look like and if they need services the Financial Planner can’t offer she/he should have a wealth of contacts that can help them.

Have you had this conversation in your family yet? If so, what did it look like? Did you seek guidance or are you lost like my family was? Now is the time to take a step in the right direction if you haven’t already done so.

Until next week my wonderful readers!

– Financial Landscaper